We All Cope With Something…Understand….

Quotes and Notes #346, October 16

Smile, adapt, and move on

Smile, adapt, and move on

“Everybody has to have somebody to look down on.”–Kris Kristofferson

Take care before being judgmental. There may be extenuating circumstances—you just never know. My throat operation that was necessary to save me from dying from cancer had several effects. One is that it is now difficult for me to converse easily while dining. It is also difficult for me to make myself heard in a noisy environment, such as a noisy restaurant. Some time ago, my wife and I found that we could have a fun conversation by texting each other as we ate.

One Saturday morning, we were eating breakfast in a crowded Waffle House and having a fun time texting each other and laughing as we ate. A most elderly, obviously wealthy, obviously opinionated gentleman stopped at our table on his way out. He gave both of us a lecture on paying attention to our “little computers” instead of to each other. We both just looked at him silently, wondering, “How is this your concern?” The man walked off shaking his head. I thought, “Oh, well, Kristofferson was right on two levels this time.”

I did smile at him, though. Poor soul, he must live with himself..
You would share a smile with him, also, wouldn’t you?
Everything is going to be all right

John P. Schulz—“Sweetie Drives on Chemo Days.”

Are You Really Listening?

Quotes and Notes #320, September 20

Someone is sending me a message.

Someone is sending me a message.

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”—Steven Covey

We are all familiar with this practice. I know that I have been guilty of it many times. As years have gone by, I have learned that when someone is telling me of their concerns, fortunes or misfortunes—they really don’t want a reply. I have learned that I can practice listening and become better at it. I have also learned to recognize other “listeners.”

Sometimes the best response is to say, “I’m sorry,” or “That’s interesting,” but the best practice is to listen instead of waiting impatiently to tell your friend about your neighbor’s mother-in-law’s grandmother’s similar experience. Listen to understand, and understand those who do not.

Share a smile while you are listening
Everything is going to be all right
John P. Schulz—“Sweetie Drives on Chemo Days.”

Fight Fear With The Ultimate Weapon…

Quotes and Notes #302, September 2

Conquer fear with understanding.

Conquer fear with understanding.

 

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.”–Marie Curie–

We must look inside ourselves to understand. It is easy to know, but understanding takes more time, care, and examination.
My mother asked me once about my take on all of the things that were physically wrong with me at the time. I said, “We will see what can be fixed and get it fixed, then we will deal with the rest later—that will involve attitude.” Fear makes things worse. Understanding makes things better.
There are many things in this world that we cannot understand. For those occasions, it is best to turn your back on it, throw your hands in the air, and walk off as you say, “Oh, Well.”

But you can always share a smile.
Sharing a smile is like butter—butter makes it better.
Everything is going to be all right.

John P. Schulz—“Sweetie Drives on Chemo Days.”

The Path From Confusion

Quotes and Notes #166, April 19

“I believe the process of going from confusion to understanding is a precious, even emotional, experience that can be the foundation of self-confidence.”—Brian Greene—

At times it becomes necessary to slow down and patiently study the nature of something that is confusing in our life. Sometimes, something happens in our direction or development that we just don’t quite understand. To deal with these feelings we have the choice of anger or examination.

It is best to pause, examine the nature of the confusion and to find a path to understanding and acceptance. In most cases the act of solving the problem, embracing the problem, or coming to an understanding of a new concept will serve to make us feel better about ourselves and to give us feelings of happiness, inner security, and confidence.

Share a smile

Everything is going to be all right

John P. Schulz

“Sweetie Drives on Chemo Days.”

Be confident, be happy.

Be confident, be happy.

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